5 Things to Think About Before Deciding to Divorce
Should I get a divorce?
With the exception of situations of domestic violence (in which case you should seek safety immediately – see below), there are no easy answer when it comes to deciding whether or not to get a divorce. Whether you have children, the complexity of your finances and the length of your marriage, all play a role in your decision. Beyond that, there are many nuances.
In the case of marital infidelity, for some, it’s a no-brainer- you cheat, I’m out! For other marriages, couples can recover and continue working at their marriage after infidelity (for more information on infidelity, Esther Perel has a wealth of resources). For some couples, lack of intimacy is something they can live with, for others seeking intimacy out of marriage, divorce is the only option.
Whatever your situation, there are several factors that you should consider:
- What is the source of my unhappiness? Is it something that we can discuss and address?
- Where will I live, where will my spouse live?
- How will we address issues pertaining to the children?
- What are my finances like? Do we have enough for us to have two households? Will we have to change our lifestyle?
- Do I really understand what it means to get divorced?
These are just a few of the multitude of questions and issues you may face in the divorce process. Most importantly, you need to educate yourself and think through all your options before moving forward with hiring an attorney and filing for divorce.
If you’re a victim of domestic abuse, click here for resources available.
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